It was one of those consequential series of events that you never see coming that resulted in me meeting with Lily. I posted her 365 days of happiness project on the Piece of Mind Facebook + Twitter pages and wanted to send her a quick letting her know and before I knew it we were catching about Piece of Mind. Lily liked the project I had founded back in 2012 and wanted to learn more about it. So we met for a cup of joe to chit chat about Piece of Mind and get an inside look into Lily’s world.
It was great meeting Lily and her dog who is actually cuter in real life – if you can believe it! I was so moved by her bravery and honesty. How easily she spoke about herself and how comfortable I felt speaking with her. It felt like I had known her for years. She has an undeniable inviting and warm energy to her.
“The biggest shocker was when she asked if she could photograph me for her 365 days of happiness project, as a perpetual fighter of my own demons, it gave me a feeling of resistance that I so desperately wanted”
What I really love about the project is that it gets you thinking about what happiness means to you. I know that sounds obvious -duh Rukshana – what else would she be asking? But it really was a shocking moment of clarity for me. I guess, like many other people, I rarely stopped and thought about what happiness meant. Often I’d find myself trying to escape the negatively that slips in through the cracks that I’d forget to appreciate all the things in my life that brought me happiness.
The first thing I noticed about Lily was the big smile she was wearing and then her fabulous necklace! Her smile instantly made me feel comfortable. I think that’s her gift. I think that’s why we can relate to her. We started chatting, I asked her a few questions about her life and her story. It was truly a delight.
So what does happiness mean to me?
Lilyanne tell us….
How would you describe your visual style?
I often get asked to define my style and I always find it really hard to answer. I guess you could say it’s minimal, or whatever-it-is-that-I’m-into-at-the-time. Apparently that also makes me “edgy,” whatever that means.
I really like how you blend bling with your outfits. It’s not an easy look to pull off! How do you match such contrasting pieces? Any advice to fashionistas looking to imitate?
Haha thanks! When putting together an outfit, I usually start with picking out the shoes I want to wear first, then I work my way up. In terms of jewelry, since I dress pretty casual, I like to layer on a couple of necklaces, bracelets or rings to add some interest.
If you don’t mind me asking, in one of your blog posts you said: ” It got so bad that I even scarred my skin because of words from broken individuals” – what did you mean by that? It’s such a powerful statement.
When I was 14-years-old and became depressed, I used to cut myself. Fortunately, I haven’t had any desire to do so ever since.
What’s one thing about you that your follows would be surprised to learn?
Hmm, that’s a tough question because I’m pretty open about myself. Perhaps that I’m a HUGE Harry Potter fan?
Your sleeve inspires me! I love tattoos. What was your first tattoo? Did you ever think you would end up with a sleeve?
Oh God, my first tattoo was a tribal dragon on my lower back. Note for all the parents out there: NEVER let a 16-year-old get a tattoo. EVER. As for a sleeve, I think so. For as long as I can remember, I’ve found tattoos incredibly beautiful. Even my parents each have one, and my sister did, too.
*If you haven’t already, check out Lily’s blog.